Apologizing With “Molest” Ends the Conversation

Molestar means to bother or annoy in Spanish, said constantly, politely, without weight. Its English lookalike carries none of that lightness.

“Perdón por molestar” is one of the most ordinary phrases in Spanish, said before asking a small favor, interrupting someone's work, or knocking on a closed door. It carries about as much weight as “sorry to bother you” does in English. The English word it resembles carries an entirely different amount of weight, and the gap between the two is the widest on this list.

Why This Gap Is Different From the Others

What does “molestar” actually mean in Spanish?

To bother, annoy, or disturb someone in a completely everyday sense — interrupting a phone call, asking for a moment of someone's time, or making a small request. It's polite, common, and carries no serious implication at all.

Why is saying “sorry to molest you” such a big mistake in English?

Because unlike most false friends, which shift tone or category, this one shifts severity. “Molest” in English describes a serious crime, not a minor inconvenience. The sentence goes from a polite apology to something a native listener can't casually let pass.

What should I say instead?

For the Spanish sense of molestar, native English speakers say “sorry to bother you,” “sorry to interrupt,” or “do you mind if I ask you something?” None of them carry any risk of being misheard.

Most false friends get a confused look and move on. This one doesn't. A native English speaker who hears “sorry to molest you” isn't confused, they're alarmed, and the conversation doesn't continue as though nothing happened. The mistake gets remembered long after the actual sentence is forgotten.

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